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My Amazing Qualities
You are not a situation. The people who already love you name what is true — shows up, funny without performing, good on an ordinary Tuesday. That is the first thing a stranger should know.
myAQ
My Amazing Qualities.
The people who already know you name what you already carry. Then someone meets you. myAQ is a quiet place for trans men to find a serious partner — especially after a marriage ends, when being alone is frightening and a rebound would only hurt more.
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A serious partner. Not a bandage.
Wanting not to be alone is human. This room is for a lasting partnership — someone who wants you, not a vacancy. Any gender, if they want a trans man as a partner.
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Warmth comes back as warmth
You do not have to pretend you are fine. You also do not have to arrive only as a wound. Give what you can: an honest evening, a true sentence, the qualities already in you.
Read the essayBuilt for this season
After a marriage ends, the quiet can be loud.
Jonah is 34, a trans man in Chicago. The marriage ended. He is allowed to be scared of being alone. He cooks too much. He walks the lake. He wants a serious partner — not a secret, not a performance, and not someone to paper over the hurt.
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Mara, 36
95%Chicago, IL· 3 mi
Open to kids
A lasting partnership
I design books for a living and keep too many houseplants alive out of stubbornness. I have never been married. I have wanted a life with a kid in it for a long time — not as a project, as a household. I like men who know who they are.
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Riley, 35
94%Chicago, IL· 5 mi
Shared custody
A lasting partnership
Divorced two years ago. I have my son every other week — same rhythm as a lot of people on here, which is why I stayed. I work with families all day and still believe people can be decent. I want a partner, not a project, and not a secret.
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Andre, 40
84%Milwaukee, WI· 92 mi
Open to kids
A lasting partnership
I build kitchens and bookshelves and the occasional ridiculous birdhouse. I live two hours north and I will drive. I want something that lasts longer than a season. I like men who have already lived a little.
My Amazing Qualities · myAQ
Named by 3 people he already trusts
- Keeps what he said he would×2
- Says the good thing out loud×1
- Listens before he answers×1
- Funny without cutting anyone down×1
- Lives what he says×1
- Stays with a hard week×1
- Not living to impress×1
- Present in the ordinary minute×1
“He is the person I call when I need the truth and a plate of food. He will not perform for a stranger. That is why this has to be real.”
Sam, sister
“I have watched him rebuild a life without turning it into a speech. He is better than he thinks on an ordinary night.”
Ellis, friend
“The weeks that are already spoken for are not a flaw. He treats them like the point.”
Robin, chosen family
You do not have to be alone. You also do not have to rush.
myAQ is for trans men looking for a serious partner. The people who already love you can say what is true of you until you can hear it again yourself.
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